He said it’s up to me . . . where’s the relief?


It may sound good at first, knowing you have “the say” over this pregnancy decision.  It seems that he’s recognizing that you have a choice,

  • That you can’t be forced to do something you don’t want to do.
  • It sounds like freedom.
  • It sounds like respect.
  • It sounds like the acknowledgement of your
    • Rights, of your
    • Power and your
    • Control over the situation.

Then how come it doesn’t feel good?  Why did your heart ache when he said, “It’s up to you?”  Why do you feel…

  • Let-down
  • Deserted
  • Rejected and
  • Alone?

When he said, “It’s up to you,” it meant that he is walking away from any way of influencing you to have an abortion – or not to have one.  This is his baby too – as much as yours.  Yet he is letting you decide whether to let his baby live or die without his input.

  • He is not rushing forward to hug you,
  • To tell you he’ll be there for you and the baby,
  • To promise to stand by you,
  • To make sure you both have what you need.
  • He is not trying to protect you from having to go through the abortion procedure with its risks and possible complications.
  • He is not trying to protect his own child from a painful and horrific death.

He is walking away, leaving you alone to make one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make in your life.

It’s also the most important decision you’ll ever make in your baby’s life.

Time will tell whether your baby’s father’s character develops and whether he’ll mature into a responsible adult and a good partner for life.  But your decision about your child has to be made now.

  • It has to be made by you, her mother.
  • For now, take your baby’s father out of the equation. Set him aside.
  • Think about how an abortion will affect your life.
  • Think about how it will affect your child’s.

Make a decision you can all live with.